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Don't believe it!
Since we 've been with babies, you'll think of the common myths about baby sleep-forever! —
We know everything about them.
But be careful: the more books you read, the more you talk to your grandmother, the more sleep misconceptions and misconceptions you will encounter.
Here's the myth: "New parents should raise their children alone. " Nonsense!
New parents have historically relied heavily on help.
Family and friends in most cultures in the world are always "mothers "--
Until recently, an absurd myth was put forward: "You are a wuss if you need a nanny, and you are incompetent if you need help from your family.
"The fact is: raising a child does take up a village!
So now is the best time to attract customers.
Of course, when your friends and family need your help, you should be prepared to return these favors.
Speaking of mythology, here are the top ten wrong baby sleep thoughts you may hear from moms you meet in the park.
Myth 1: babies are naturally a good sleeper.
Fact: Don't let the phrase "sleep like a baby" fool you.
The baby slept a lot but was broken down into pieces all day.
Sometimes, like adults, it's too hard for babies to get together.
The daily commotion in your home will make them so excited that they stay up too late. . .
It makes them nervous and miserable, making it harder for them to leave the party and give in to sleep.
Myth 2: never wake up the sleeping baby.
Fact: sometimes it is essential to wake up your child!
For example, if she is sleeping, you need to wake her up to change her diaper in order to protect her skin.
Wake her up at 11. m. dreamfeed (
A few more ounces)
Could be a key step in improving her sleep.
Also, deliberately waking up your child is an important step in teaching her self skillssoothing (
After being awakened by a ringing phone or a passing truck, he or she falls asleep himself). Don't worry.
Even before she learns to be herself, you can help her slide back to sleep quickly
Once you have mastered the skills to turn on her calm reflection, it will become soothing.
Myth 3: sleeping babies need our tipto to get on the toes.
Fact: You might like to sleep quietly, but it's really weird for your kids!
That's because in the womb she's surrounded by the a24/7 feeling Symphony --
Hold, soft touch, voice, and the shaking of the hand.
Therefore, sleeping quietly is actually a sensory deprivation of the baby. . .
Just like locking us in a dark closet!
Of course, chaos.
Like a Dingle Pot
Will disturb the baby's sleep
But there is intense rhythmic movement and correct white noise (
Rumbling and muffled)
Will be two top tools for you to improve her nap and night.
Myth 4: shaking your child to sleep every night will make her depend on it.
Fact: This is a bit tricky.
It is true that shaking and nursing your child to sleep every night will delay her learning how to sleep alone.
However, shaking and nursing your baby to sleep is absolutely delicious and could be one of your most precious memories of the early days. (
The baby is constantly held and shaken in the womb.
So your little friend is "addicted" to sleep cues before the first day. )
Fortunately, it is very easy to enjoy the hold, care and swing you want without causing sleep problems.
All you need to do is add other soothing sensations to the Bedtime Mix (
Like white noise and swaddling)
And use the fast wake-up and sleep technology (
I will teach you soon)
Turn your child into a good self. soother.
Myth 5: The mysterious stomachache can cause intestinal pain.
Fact: For thousands of years, hernia (
Suddenly scream for three hours or more a day)
Has always been a medical mystery.
The crying began in two to three weeks, peaked in six to eight weeks, and then gradually disappeared after about three months.
But the fact that most screaming babies can calm down quickly through 5S suggests that this cry is not caused by pain.
Doctors and grandma have always thought that a stomachache will make the baby uncomfortable.
Eating too much, indigestion, or acid relief.
Although some people make a noise after feeding, they make a fuss.
As the recipe or mother's diet changes, 5 to 10% of people get better
It is now clear that the daily crying is not caused by stomach pain.
How can I be so sure?
There are many reasons :-
90% of picky babies did not benefit from a change in diet. -
As the sound of the vacuum cleaner or the bumpy car goes, crying usually improves.
However, huge noise or cruising on the interstate does not relieve severe pain. (
It will definitely not help our stomach! )-
Most babies with a cold will calm down in a few minutes. or less —
When their parents imitate the feeling of the uterus correctly. (
In the next chapter, I will talk more about how to do this by using the 5S to open the calm reflection. )
Myth 6: it is healthy to let the baby cry "steam burst.
Fact: psychologist Lee Salk says best: "Crying is good for the lungthehe way and bleeding is good for the veins!
"I totally agree.
Just because your child will scream doesn't mean it's good for him to keep going.
The idea that small people need to scream to exercise their lungs or "release steam" to relax from the chaos of the day is biologically or emotionally meaningless.
First, crying is not a lung movement (
Calm baby's lungs are as strong as a cold baby's lungs).
Second, when you wait for the battery to run out of power, making your child "cry out" is as crazy as ignoring your harsh car alarm.
There is only one reason babies cry: they need help!
The solution is to find out how to meet their needs.
Myth 7: Some babies hate sw swaddling.
Fact: It looks like some babies hate sw swaddling!
They fought and were nervous as soon as they were surrounded.
But remember that the baby is completely satisfied in the womb. . .
But they have no freedom to act.
As I will describe in the section on swadd, when your child's arm is tightly stretched into the package, she may struggle.
But when you add other special steps that open up her amazing calming reflections, she will soon calm down and stay calm for longer periods of time and sleep better.
Myth 8: We should teach babies to sleep in their own rooms.
Fact: we all want our children to grow up independently.
But this is a goal that will take a long time to achieve.
As a parent of a fifteen-year-old childyear-
The old man will tell you!
In fact, it's inconvenient to have your child sleep in another room in the first few months --
It may even be a danger.
It's inconvenient because every time a hungry baby cries, you have to leave your warm bed and stumble into a cold Hall.
This is a danger because sleeping in the same room can reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (
Also known as small island developing States).
Myth 9: your baby needs to adapt to the family, not the family to your baby.
Fact: This is wrong.
When your little girl approaches her first birthday, teaching restrictions will definitely become a major parenting goal, but now your main goal is to build her confidence and trust in you.
For children, feeling safe is much earlier than feeling independent.
Remember, you're shaking in the womb. and fed)
Every second of your baby
So in the first few months, even if you give her 12 hours a day, this will immediately reduce by 50%.
From her point of view
I want every child to learn good table manners but it's crazy trying to teach them sixmonth-old.
As the Bible says: "There is a season for everything.
"Now is the season to embrace your sweet, kissing baby and make her feel protected and loved.
There will be plenty of time for training and discipline training in the coming months.
Myth 10: It takes a few months for babies to learn to sleep well at night.
Fact: many parenting books continue the myth.
They say a baby's brain is too immature to learn to sleep six hours before three to four months old. But I disagree.
As you know now, babies are learning even in the womb!
With some simple tips, you can help your little one sleep a few more hours in a few weeks instead of months.
Now that you know these myths, let's take a look at the facts about babies and sleep.
Excerpt from Harvey Capp's guide to the happiest baby.
Harvey Karp Copyright 2012
Excerpts with permission from Harper Collins.